Friday, June 29, 2007

A Thought and A Horoscope

Ahh, it's been a week since my last post... It's not that I didn't have time, it's just that I simply did not have anything worthwhile on my mind... unfortunately haha.

But today, as I was walking back from the library, I suddenly looked up towards the clouds and I saw a big, murky black patch sitting on the horizon. Rest of the sky was clear blue with a touch of small white clouds and as I looked around, I suddenly realised just how peaceful and tranquil my suburb was... This triggered off another burst of thought, something along the lines of war and peace. I suddenly thought "war and conflict is merely a clash of ideals; nothing more than a conflict between the values and beliefs of the various human races".

This made me think that our mind, or in fact, us the human race are certainly destined for more and that we are simply not at a such advanced phase yet. The day we can achieve world peace (as crazy as this sounds) is truly the day we, as homo sapiens, really succeed in our goals whatever that may be. This is not as far fetched as it seems I believe, in time (provided we don't die off first), evolution will take us to this stage and I am saddened at the fact I will unlikely see this in this lifetime. However, if reincarnation really exists, I certainly hope I will relive again to see that moment; don't you?

On a lighter note, my driving skills is coming along nicely, it seems that everything has come down to mastering control of the clutch release and accelerator depress. I think I've stumbled across the key and I hope in no time, I'll be able to achieve the fluency required. And yes, so much things to do with a car and license, mmm, there'll be certainly a major rise in the level of productivity :D

On another note, I recently read a few "complete profiles" of each of the star signs and boy, was I amazed at the amount of shit those guys can write. I kid you not, those profiles exceeds 5 pages sometimes and while some "hits" the target, some are just random bullshit. Personally, I feel they're an interesting read as long as one don't get too into it. But one thing that caught my attention was the compatibility stuff - very amusing, supposedly, for me, the most compatible signs are Cancer and Pisces and god, if you have ever read the profile of Pisces, you'd think girls in that star signs are the ultimate perfection. If you're interested, just go to Wikipedia and types in Pisces, it's hilarious! And yeah, they provide profiles of boys too, I'm amazed at the degree of accuracy in some cases but I guess that simply illustrates the power of our mind to just "link things up". Just don't forget the Forer effect.

Until next time, enjoy your lives my friends. Here's a motto for all of you to have a think:

Who will guard the guards?

Friday, June 22, 2007

Freedom... At Least For 5 Weeks

The end of exams... finally after 3 months of full on cramming and stress. What can I say, university is such a waste of time and all for what, a piece of paper.. pfft shit that's what it is. So 5 weeks of rest and it's time to take advantage of this time and get some things accomplished... after some play bwhahaha...

I recently downloaded this Korean drama called "Full House" (11 gb,2 weeks of downloading!!) but it was worth it. A very good drama with average subbing. The genre is comedy and romance and the actors does a superb job, particularly the girls haha... Those Korean girls, omg, what can I say, their beauty exceed their reputation in immeasurable ways. I hate to say this but their beauty probably exceed those of the Chinese girls. I don't know what's the term I'm trying to look for but it has something to do with class and refinement I guess. Chinese girls these days, ahhh, for a lack of better words are so couth. Maybe it's not this, I now think it's their brain, yeah that's it. They're TOO SMART or well has TOO MANY "IDEAS", like you know, not academic ideas but just, well, ideas that's perverted, I think you know what I mean. I don't know how other guys feel but I seem to feel it this way... I think innocence and "pure thoughts" is something that's very important in a girl and I guess it's this that I find so appealing. To illustrate what I mean, look at the girl below:

You know, I'm a simple person and it's the simple things in life I enjoy the most. If I ever were able to find a girl that had a similar personality and looks as the girl above and be with her, I think I'll be happy for the rest of my life no matter what situation I am in or what I have. This is quite sad isn't it but I think I am quite able to throw away everything for a girl like that... Maybe this is my "hormones" talking but maybe it's something deeper though whatever it is, I believe in this and will likely to believe in this until that one comes along and when she does, well, everything in this life would have been worthwhile but hey, who am I kidding right? Stories like this only exist in fairytales and this is probably why those fairytales are so popular haha... I'm typing this with a smile on my face listening to Don't Matter by Akon hahaha, good song.

Ok, enough rambling about girls but I'd recommend the series to male & female teenagers between the age of 18-25... But who knows ;)

This break, I have quite a few plans of three which has priority over everything else. The first is to grab my manual license... I would do with an automatic but I just don't feel right. Yet it's so damned frustrating... I seem to suck at balancing the clutch and accelerator, poor car keeps damned stalling... tips anyone?

The second is to learn how to cook. This is pretty simple, my good old mum showed me a basic dish and how to cook rice (yeah, don't laugh, we all start somewhere). Hopefully by the end of the breaks, I'll be able to know how to cook between 10-20 traditional Chinese cuisines so I can feed myself.

The third is to schedule myself into order and begin a exercise regime. As painful and tiring as this is, watching the drama made me feel I need to help out my figure... I currently weigh about 75 kg and is about hmm (no ruler :( so I'll guess) 175-178 cm. So yeah, a bit overweight so time to get my body into a better state. No, I'm not turning anorexic, I am reaching self actualization thanks very much ^_^.

A fourth priority is to perhaps apply for another job, the current one is boring me and the opportunities for advancement is too low. Anyone has some good resume template they'd recommend me to use?

So yeah, 5 weeks is enough to make my priorities into a habit and I think I might need to keep off the fatty foods except that's gonna be difficult, salads anyone? lol, but I can't survive on salad, I need my meat and I'm sorry for you vegetarians out there... think of it this way, if we didn't eat meat, what would become of animals like cows? They can't survive by themselves...

On another note, I'll be visiting the blogs of everyone on my recommended list and going through your archives so be prepared for a lot of comments lol. So, I'll keep everyone updated on my progress as I tidy up my life. It'll be hard but they say a month is enough to make things into a habit and I am fully determined to do so. I may be pretty lazy but determination I have when the results are something worthwhile. This reminds me of the words of a famous Chinese sage, Confucius: If I fight, I win!

I'm kind like this, if the results are not worthwhile, I can be quite lazy but if I do want something and the results is something obtainable, I will win it. So wish me luck and I hope everyone is enjoying their lives because I will be!

I was wondering, does anyone want to see some pictures of Perth as in the city? If you do, please tell me what kind of things you want to see like churches, parks, universities, shops or natural beauties? I'll endeavour to take some photos and host them up :)

Until next time, zai jian! (Chinese for see you next time!)

Sunday, June 17, 2007

Middle Eastern Wars - My Thoughts and A Prayer

Well, I woke up today aiming to get some studying done. So I began my normal routine, brushing teeth and washing face then having some breakfast. Then I turned on the TV and went into the Chinese channel Phoenix. Guess what I saw? Yeah you'll probably have guessed it from my heading, the current ongoing conflict between Hamas and Fatah.

So here I am, sitting on my couch watching these Hamas dudes in Gaza wearing balaclavas and holding Kalashnikovs in their hands, some on top of roofs with their green flag, some near checkpoints searching through people's clothes. Then suddenly, the TV changes and starts to feature these Fatah guys in West Bank, wearing their military uniforms also holding AK's and assorted arms looking around frantically.

So I began to think. The Middle East certainly has had a long and cruel history starting off hundreds of years back. Fast forward to the present, it is still ongoing but the target has changed from their "arch enemy" Israel towards themselves... In the past few weeks, statistics estimate (I dare say conservatively) 110 dead and much more wounded in the fight between Hamas and Fatah.

Now looking at Lebanon and their crisis with Syria... Another MP and useful life gone and it looks like there's gonna be a tit for tat revenge killings. Then we have Iraq and Afghanistan - God, I have no idea what the heck is going on but all I know is that more people are going to die.

The current Middle East situation reminds me very much of the Russian and especially the Chinese civil wars. Back in the 1930's, on one hand, we have the Communists fighting to try and liberate the Chinese from the Japanese and on the other, we have the Kuomintang fighting the Communists while also trying to "fight" the Japanese. Now I know this may be a biased point of view but it is what I believe after reading much history books. But the point is that in both wars, we had foreign powers intervening and supporting one group and this is exactly whats happening with Fatah and Hamas.

I mean for fucks sake, these two groups are fanatical enough already without the US, Russians and other Arab nations stepping in and adding more fuel to the situation. I mean I totally appreciate the soldiers for what they do (the ultimate sacrifice - Salute!) but the political agenda behind them is what I really fear. As for the groups themselves, I mean come on, you religious zealots, no matter how much crazy shit you guys can come up with, what do you ultimately want? Land for your people? Food? Security? For God's sake, "destroying" Israel is not going to bring you either and declaring Jihad on everything you see is not either (nor is killing your brothers in arms). The only solution forward is to negotiate. I know this sounds easy from my point of view but what other solution is there? I guess only time will start this process and meanwhile, I only fear for the innocent men, woman and children standing in the lines of fire... More so, I pity the "freedom fighters"...

The Chinese Civil War ended after 23 years with millions dead... My heart truly pains at this figure and thinking of the current crises in the Middle East, my heart pains even more. I can only hope for these crises to end earlier so that the innocents will be able to enjoy their lives... My heartfelt prayers and wishes are with those in distress...

Saturday, June 16, 2007

Blogging and Rationalisation - A Defense Mechanism?

After posting my article on "Reality" yesterday, I went on to do a bit more research on the topic of "thinking" and I stumbled across this article on Wikipedia: Defense Mechanism that lists a number of defense concepts by the well known "father of psychoanalysis" Sigmund Freud.

It's certainly a good read and I soon got to parts called intellectualization and rationalisation. Putting it simply, intellectualization is described as follows:
Intellectualization is a 'flight into reason', where the person avoids uncomfortable emotions by focusing on facts and logic. The situation is treated as an interesting problem that engages the person on a rational basis, whilst the emotional aspects are completely ignored as being irrelevant.
And the method we do this is through rationalisation which is as follows:
Rationalization is the process of constructing a logical justification for a flawed decision, action or lack thereof that was originally arrived at through a different mental process.
The more I read, the more I realise how applicable it is to alot of my posts minus the total ignorance of my emotions of course. More so, it applies to a number of the "thinking" blogs out there doesn't it? We in our desire to ignore some of the painful emotions, tends to rationalise in order to escape the reality of our emotions no? How many blogs out there have you come across that you think follows this pattern (well, mine excluded haha)

Now I don't know alot about psychology, but I feel being able to at least rationalise is better than allowing the actual anxiety to come through. Of course, from these articles I also realise the foremost importance of allowing ones emotions to come through in order to move on. So I guess a conscious understanding of these principles is in fact useful for a person because once the person is able to acknowledge his or her emotions, he is able to then rationalise about how to move on.

Nonetheless, thinking is definitely interesting... It certainly allows us to discover more about ourselves and if you havn't realised already, I've added a Latin motto to my profile information:

Dubito ergo cogito; cogito ergo sum. I doubt therefore I think; I think therefore I am.

Friday, June 15, 2007

Reality - Harsh Or In Fact Enlightening?

Ahh, people, how are you all? I sincerely hope you are all doing fine and for those of you in distress whether mentally, spiritually or physically (and any other I missed), my heartfelt prayers are with you. In the past few weeks, I have been under an emotional cloud and what can I say, it was not something within my control and as much as I wanted to get out of it, I could not.

However, in the recent days, with the big burden of exams out of the way (well, still 1 more left called Entrepreneurship 300 but my internal marks are high enough not to worry), I am lifting in my spirits! This is a good thing and it simply reinforces what many people have told me: time is the best healer and while I knew this, I was simply unable to apply this knowledge. This just reminds me of how fragile our mind really is despite all the wonders it is capable of...

Anyway, today I just wanted to touch on the topic of reality and just how wonderful (and harsh...) it is. Please bear in mind that I am currently under the influence of some nice white wine and I might make less sense than usual :P

But reality, it is a wonderful thing isn't it? No matter how much our mind can theorise, rationalise or hypothesis the future, it is really the reality that cures our problems. We, in all our beliefs, want to do things our way and we all try very hard to make reality follow our own imagination or dreams... However, today I realised this only true to an extent, while we have the power to change many things, sometimes, putting it simply, we can not. In these scenarios, reality, whether you thought of this or not, guides us. In these scenarios, we simply can not change what is happening in reality and therefore we subconsciously let reality guide us instead...

Of course, reality is harsh and sometimes, for the lucky ones, we do consciously realise this fact and as much as we try to modify or even change reality, we are simply not capable of doing this. Yet reality is also a double edged sword because while harsh and painful it is, it really forces us to think even more and dream even more. This may not necessarily be about the same path we do want to take, but in fact about other paths we can take... It is this that is the essence of what I am trying to say.

Putting this in an analogy: For every coin we flip, there is a head and a tail. As much as we want it to be either a head or tail, reality in fact, controls this and sometimes, it will just not land on the side you want and there is simply nothing you can do to control this (well, unless you cheat but let's ignore this haha). However, the fact that it lands on the side you do not desire does not signify a bad thing, but in fact, it could be a blessing in disguise no? What I mean is why force yourself to a lie when the real truth lies ahead and it is in fact much, MUCH better? For those of us lucky ones, we often sees this and therefore allow reality take hold and thereby negating some of the damaging effects. But for the less luckier ones of us (or those who simply don't want to), reality is often harsh and painful when it confronts you.

Of course, this raises another question and that is what if the lie is in fact not a lie and can lead to something better than the "truth" that we think may exist further up the road? To this, I have no answer except stop pondering with your mind and allow reality to take hold. Think about the realistic future, not the future you think. Again, putting this is an analogy, let's look at a horoscope (Thanks to iGoogle) I saw today:

Give yourself time today to get lost in your dreams about where you want your life to take you. This isn't about idle daydreaming, yet there is no need to put additional pressure on yourself to make any of your ideas come true. Additionally, there is no reason to share your current plans with anyone. For now, just enjoy lolling in the possibilities that lie in front of you.
For me, this is not reality but in fact a cold reading. If any of you understand the Forer effect, you'll know that cold readings are extremely general and often "accurate" simply because our mind wants it to be. So, what I mean is that I consciously know this effect and thereby can disentangle myself (or so I hope...). However, I am still unconsciously subject to this effect and while as much as I don't want to place pressure on myself to make any of my ideas comes true, I look at the reality and the REAL future and when I do, I realise I can't do what the horoscope tells me, I must move on and move forward towards the real truth.

Ok, this has been another extremely long post and anyone who has followed this far, I thank you. If you have understood, even better because I hope realising this fact is indeed better than just simply generalising things with ideas such as "strong internal locus of control" because we aren't superman and sometimes, things are just the way they are.

On another note, I'd like to thank Jeff from Psychosomatic Wit for awarding me a "Thinking Blog Award". Firstly, I'd like to thank my mum and dad for all their support these years *wipes tears*, without them, I would have been born into this world. Secondly, I'd like to thank all my readers, without you guys, I'd not have gotten any views. Thirdly, I'd like to thank my friends, the Grey Aliens, if not for their abduction of me all those years ago, I'd still have been living in a rubbish dump. Finally, I'd like to thank ummm, myself for being able to talk so much. Thank you, thank you, I love you all! *kisses and waves* :P

As for my own awards, please follow my blog carefully and during the holidays, I intend to broaden my horizon and vote my own top 5 and believe me, I'll be very selective and only the best will get in.

P.S. The Aliens didn't abduct me.. and thanks Jeff, I appreciate it. It is a surprise because I didn't think my thoughts was that good but I'll work hard to continue the mass exodus of my thoughts. I want to add more analogies to clarify my future cognitive processes to everyone so you all can have an even better time reading!

Back to my wine, and oh, enjoy life ladies and gentlemen.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

How Much Heart Should You Put In?


This is my final post before I start my first exam in about 16 hours times. Wish me luck.

I want to have a look at a question and that is: Just how much heart a person should put into a friendship or relationship?

So let's begin. It would be fair to say that the amount of heart a person place in any friendship or relationship would depend on how well that person understand and trust the person they're placing their heart with. This is a linear relationship - so the greater the trust and understanding, the greater amount of heart and vice versa. In theory, this sounds very well and good. However, we must understand that a friendship or a relationship really begins because both people trust and understand each other and therefore in reality, the amount of heart placed in each case are pretty high - unless both sides recognise the fact that they're just using each other but let's dismiss this third scenario.

At this point, we now must ask one a critical question: Should we place such a high level of heart in the friendship or relationship?

What I mean is that the only thing preventing a person from being heartbroken is really how well the opposite side can take care of your heart. To illustrate what I mean, I will take myself as an example. I pride myself on my high moral values and beliefs. As a result, if I believe a person is worthy of my trust and friendship or relationship, I will put pretty much 100% of my heart into it without a doubt. However, not everyone is like me and while I do trust the opposite side, there is absolutely no guarantee they will not break my heart/let me down. So pretty much this comes down to my critical question: Should we place such a high level of heart?

At this point, it'll be fair to say NO because there is nothing to prevent you from being heartbroken/let down etc except the opposite side.

So we have a dilemma, or reached a crossroad if you like. On one hand, we want to give alot of heart but on another, for the lack of guarantee of that person's values and beliefs, we shouldn't.

So what the heck should we do?

Well, different people will have different answers for this because the amount/level of heart break they have experienced vary - some have been hurt deeply while others have not been hurt at all and will have the 100% heart formula.

1) Some will have the following formulas I believe:

90-95% Defense - 10-5% Heart.

2) Some will have an even more powerful formula which is as follows:

"Fuck you, you ain't getting any of my heart. I am gonna play you so hard and so high so when you fall, you'll experience the same amount of fucking pain I felt you fucking asshole!@#"

3) Some have a combination of both:

"I'll give you some heart just to entice you and see how well you can capture it and treat it. I have been hurt to an extent where I will still give out but it'll be primarily to play you and on the first sign of danger, I'll take it back and hurt you!"

So, it is quite crazy isn't it? Everything just depends on the person you're giving your heart to.... If you have managed to read what I have written and understood, I congratulate you! And if you have done so, you'll want to know my answer to this too.

Me? I feel it is good to take things slowly. Don't give out all your heart but instead test the person you will be giving it to. But don't take it back just because you think it's getting dangerous as you may interpret it wrongly, ask or probe why instead. More importantly, don't be number 1, 2 or 3 because you could have interpret it wrong and seriously damage a true friendship/relationship not to mention the person... But importantly, don't be afraid to give your heart because just sometimes, in a rare twist of fate, you'll just meet a person like me who will treasure, protect and stand by it until the end of time. They say action speaks louder than words, so as time pass by, their actions will show you their true self.

Don't be afraid to communicate because misunderstandings will arise otherwise. Don't be afraid to laugh because life is too short to be so serious. And most importantly don't be afraid to give it another chance because... well... fate has its twists.

One sometimes know it's better to take a less foolhardy approach but sometimes, one simply can't take another other way. I now realise how foolish it is to think you can lock your heart up and stop it from being hurt because you can't.

So we arrive at a conclusion - another attempt at rationalising everything. However, I felt this piece of work is perhaps better than my previous one... Well, sleeping time.

Sunday, June 10, 2007

A New Day

As expected, thanks and by my words I will stand. It's enough and here's to friendship. Best wishes and good luck.

On a lighter note, I'd just want to post some statistics I had seen from my loggers...
My blog seems to have gotten hits from around the world from places such as Americas, Europe, Oceania and Europe. The average time is 2 mins with a fairly decent bounce rate. But what I am curious about is why no one leave comments.

Cammon people, it's not that hard is it? If you have spent 2 mins of your life reading the stuff I write, might as well let me know what you think :)

Once exams finish, I'll devote a bit more time to brushing up the blog. If anyone who accidentally stumble across my little world, please, leave a comment and let me know your blog. I would like to pay a visit and exchange views.

So here's to a new day and a brighter future everyone! And best luck to students around the world for your exams! Just remember, there will be a life after exams, don't do something foolish... like jump off a building...

Saturday, June 9, 2007

A Game

Deep into the night, I sit by the window and reflect. It's dark out there and there is a fine mist coating the glass. As I look towards the sky, I see no stars, only dark clouds hiding the moon. So I ponder, things in the past, things in the present and things in the future... So I ponder life and its dilemmas.

After much thought, I came up with the following conclusion in the events gone by and events that may come:

Everything is just a game. You can play the game, let the game play you or you can end the fucking game.

Sometimes you can't end the game nor do you want to, doing so is perhaps sad and wasteful... But if you can't play the game anymore, you'll have to end it and play another one... perhaps, and just perhaps, the new one will be a better one.

A saying comes to mind: "If the old won't go, the new won't come". This is exactly my view.

But what if you feel current game is the best one for you and ending the game is simply a big shame? - you just feel the game has so much potential. Alas... but sometimes, the game is just unplayable, things just impede successful game play, often the key factors.

Take whatever I say in whatever context it may be. I just hope you understand what I say. If the game is unplayable, don't continue as it'll be bring more pain and trouble for you. Don't believe me, just do it, I'll love to see how far you can go and maybe, just maybe you'll prove me wrong. But if you don't want to test my theory, then end it for a new game will arise. But what if it don't? Yep, complex isn't it.

Hahaha... Sudden rush of de ja vu... Damn, this is scary. Ok, ponder my view and best wishes to whatever game you play. You play it and win, you let it play you and suffer or you end it and find something better to play - Whatever happens, do it honestly, ethically and persistently and you won't regret it because regret... it will hurt you deeply and in hindsight, you will sadden at what a beautiful and wonderful game it could have become. You'll wonder why - But there won't be an answer for you.

Sometimes, I pity myself for being able to rationalise about everything... If only those rationalised "theories" can be more applicable to me... Perhaps as one matures, one will look at things in life as something more of a "game" but for a lack of knowledge, experience and wisedom, it will have to suffice. One look forward to a journey of self discovery.

Game over.

Thursday, June 7, 2007

Responses To My Part 1 Theory


After reading responses from a range of people, I can seem to collate them into one single category and that is "Relationships can not be dissected and placed in a theoretical framework"

Some people were nice like zhu and Amelia and my friends who agreed with my point of view while others decided to be honest with me and let me know their own opinions. I totally appreciate them.

One response was as follows:
but you didn't emphasis how important is "being able to talk and make each other laugh" point. feeling may comes and go but able to comprehend to each others especially in daily lives are actually more important than being "there only for the important times" although the "crucial times" factors are also important. and you cant just analyze everything so detail be 4 getting into a relationship. having said tat i did not mean know nothing bout tat person. its the "finding out"part tat makes relationship interesting no?
(Edited for quality purposes)

So basically, I get the message ladies. I outlined them below for your amusement:

You can't theorise relationships cause it won't work. There is no right or wrong. You suck and have no idea what you're talking about. You're full of shit. You're valid to an extent, after that you're talking shit. Go to hell you loser.

What can I say? It is interesting.

I am not going to defend my model, it's there to be critiqued. It's not something so holistic it has to be right and I am not saying that. I acknowledge 100% that there will be factors in a relationship that will not be covered by this "model". Likewise, I acknowledge that the model is simply too technical and "rational". Also this model is seemed to be based more on the initial phase of a relationship than the actual working phase. I guess you can see it as the foundation necessary for a successful relationship. But let me say one thing:

The core of your relationship probably involve an implementation of this model in some way that is applicable to your own lives, particular the first two criteria. Furthermore, if you have a relationship that has failed, it probably came about as a result of a lack of the factors.

If you feel this is wrong, prove me so. What makes your relationship so unique? Does it have a third or fourth or even fifth core criteria? Or does it not even need the first two criteria?

P.S. I stand by the core of my argument but I acknowledge its deficiencies. Likewise, I look forward being humiliated by others and myself. I look forward reading this post in 5 years time or maybe sooner... when my heart is broken... drunk as well... thinking why... ^_^

P.S.S. I respect women for who they are totally. Without you, there wouldn't be me. Apologies flies out to those I may have offended. Just relax, it's not a big deal. Look, I drew my model in paint...

I'm Sorry Princess.

Wednesday, June 6, 2007

Factors Needed For Successful Relationships - Part One (1)

The topic of this post is going to a bit complex for you readers. It's going to be about woman. Yep, the big enigma topic of woman. Recently, I've been pondering about this topic and after analysing conversations from several specimens (sorry ladies, for a lack of better words, I am forced to use specimen ^_^), I've come to a general understanding of two things: (1) What is needed for success in a relationship and (2) Why relationships fail. This post will be divided into two parts with this article being Part 1 and the next being Part 2. Have a read and let me know what you think!

So for ultimate success, the following three categories must be met in order (Especially the first 2, these two are essential):

1) Feelings for each other.

This goes without saying, no matter how hard a guy tries, unless there is true feelings of love between the two people, the relationship may proceed but will be doomed to failure.

2) One party (guy or girl - depending on who chased who I guess) who has a very strong understanding of the strengths and weaknesses of them self AND the opposite sex.

To explain, I'll take create an example, I'll be the guy. We will also be working under the hypothesis that criterion 1 has been met as well. So what this means is that I must have a strong and deep understanding of the good points of the girl and her flaws. Moreover, I need to understand what my own good points are and what my flaws are. This way, if anything the girl does ever touch my flaw, I'll be able to sidestep it and avoid any major confrontation. Likewise, I'll be able avoid inflaming the girl if I understand what her flaws are. Furthermore, I'll be able to utilise my strengths to address the want and needs of the girl.

Of course at this point, you might be wondering something and that is one party may not be sufficient for ultimate success and I totally agree with your point. Deep understanding from one part does only so much and may wear out that person. But, if the feelings exist, the side that lacks the understanding may eventually develop this skill and therefore lead to success in long term. For the sake of this post, I'll just use this "One Party Criterion".

This reminds me of a famous quote in the book "The Art of War": IF you know yourself and your enemy, for every hundred battles fought, you will WIN every hundred!

Likewise, it's common knowledge for relationships to succeed, both parties must contribute 100%: I am not reiterating this, I am just trying to state the more specifics.

Now, there is many other factors out there that may influence the success of any relationship but these two are the critical ones. However, I will list the some I feel that is important:

3) The X-Factors

Religion - Sometimes religions clash but I don't think this is true in a majority of the cases. This is not a major impediment.

Family Values - This is a big one. The power of families are recognised throughout the world particularly in conservative cultures. Some families want "good kids" for their son or daughter, others don't want certain races. Some want them to same religion. Basically, if the family values clash with certain traits of either party, it can cause trouble. But in 21st century, we understand marriage is a person's biggest thing in their life so families tend to involve themself less and less unless the guy/girl is a hopeless person with no charm or future prospects...

Personalities - According to Myer and Briggs, there is 16 types of personalities and each often have their own strengths and weaknesses. This goes hand in hand with criterion 2 listed previously - a lack of understanding about your partner's personality will lead to failure. If you know whether their personality suit you, then you are more likely to keep it going or cut it off. Any incorrect choice will fuck (pardon the language) you up.

Intellect - It's simple. Either the girl can't keep up or the guy can't keep up. One side gets bored and fed up and just go find someone more interesting and someone who can keep up.

Inability to Commit (Goes hand in hand with lack of loyalty) - This is hard to explain as to why. People I've interviewed are simply unable to answer this question. Guys and girls just seem to see it as something deeply inherent. I feel this is something to do with feelings. Putting it simply, criterion 1 (feelings) are just not deep enough and the attraction is simply infatuation, not love.

Loss of Interest - This can happen due to work, friends and family commitments. Distractions lead one and another to other directions and someone else.

Poor Communication - Goes without saying.

Trust & Honesty - As suggested by a few, these two must be in place. Jealousy is a curse they say and lies will be the end of you.


OK, let's wrap it up for now. I hope you understand what I mean and that for any relationship to work, the top 2 criteria (feelings of love & deep understanding by at least one party of another).

The X-Factors will be external and internal forces that will impact upon the two criteria. The following diagram illustrates what I mean.

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Sorry for the drawing haha. It's late so I'll leave it to everyone to ponder what I've written.

Please leave a comment on whether you think I'm right or wrong and more importantly why. Your comments will be valuable for my future research into the enigma of woman!

Tuesday, June 5, 2007

What Kind of Atheist Are You?

Recently, I found an interesting quiz from the The Atheist Diaries.

Let's not get touchy now, I have absolutely nothing against religion and I believe in fact religion is needed to keep our world from going insane. Different people have different views and I respect yours so I hope you will respect mine.

Anyway, after doing this test, I ended up being a Agnostic Atheist haha. Look below for what it is. Anyway, if you are interested, do a test and have some fun. Leave a comment about what you scored!

However, you should note this interesting article about the Forer effect. The Forer effect also known as subjective evaluation shows that people tend to accept generalised descriptions of their personalities without realising that the same evaluation could apply to nearly anyone else, because people want the results to be true. This experiment is frequently cited as criticisms of other personality tests, like the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. This Forer effect applies to astrological readings like clairvoyance and tarot so just be careful of what you see because it's not necessarily true. In fact, it can negatively impact your own lives.


You scored as Agnostic, Agnostics consider the possibility that they may be wrong about God's existence, no matter which side of the fence they stand on. Always willing to objectively evaluate the most ridiculous proof, nevertheless, these guys are skeptics of the Nth degree.



Apathetic Atheist


Scientific Atheist


Spiritual Atheist


Militant Atheist




Angry Atheist


What kind of atheist are you?
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Sunday, June 3, 2007

Good Music = Good Life

Greetings. For many, it's that time of the year again, yes, the final exams for Semester 1 of University. Especially if you are in Australia. Now this post is not going to be about how to revise for your exams even though I have established my own, unique methods and will likely to share it with everyone in the near future.

This post gonna be about good music. In today's life, I feel good music is essential. In the past, I've never really got into it but somehow it just hit me what a fool I have been and what I have been missing out. Of course, if you don't like music, then it's your own choice and any decision to change will also be your own. But for those who wants to see what songs and genres I recommend, read on.

The first is Cpop. Yep, good ol' modern Chinese music (中文歌曲). Now most of the people reading this blog would probably not understand the lyrics but I know there are people out there who like to listen to music even though they have absolutely no idea what the singer's going on about. If you are one of this types, then go to this website: Baidu. This site pretty much works like a search engine for popular Chinese songs and you can find almost anything on it. Of course, you don't understand Chinese and want more help, leave a comment. Beware, most involves romance/love and similar themes; I got bored of the speed/styles and you prob. will too.

The second is Kpop. Now I am not Korean so I have no idea what the singer's on about in this case but hey, they sound good lol. If you want a good place to download some of these songs (in English too!) then, here's a good place: Bww2. Sign up and download away!

The third is Jpop, for more information, see above.

The fourth is one of my favorites and that is hip hop. Favorite artist is the infamous Tupac (2pac, 2 pac - which one you prefer). Forget the history and the west coast/east coast stuff, enjoy the damn music. His songs at their best outclasses everything in the modern rap/g.rap/hip hop scene. You have your views and I have mine; this is mine.

I'll list ten of my favorites (Not necessarily in that order):
  1. Dear Mama
  2. Changes
  3. I Ain't Mad At Cha
  4. California Love (feat. Dr. Dre)
  5. Fuck The World
  6. Hail Mary
  7. Unconditional Love
  8. God Bless the Dead
  9. To Live And Die In L.A.
  10. Thugz Mansion
Top singer. Good place to download his songs is Limewire. Please note: I do not support music piracy, download the songs at your own peril and for review purposes only. If you can, please support the artists - they need to eat too. Share where possible.

A few other genres like rock (emo w/e), heavy metal etc I just don't like. It's impossible to understand what they're saying, the only thing you hear half the times is drums and banging. Of course, good bands and I don't deny that.

So these are some of my favorites, but I also recommend some individual songs such as Don't Worry Be Happy (Bobby McFerrin - Amazing Voice), I'm All Outta Love (Air Supply), You're Still The One (Shania Twain). There is simply too much to point out, these are just some of the ones I found that I enjoyed.

So, I have shared mine music. But I am more interested in what you like? I'm always looking to broaden my music horizons so please feel totally free to leave a comment about your recommendations.

Saturday, June 2, 2007

"Add To Google" Button Problem

OK. This is crazy shit.

See the button above? Well, if you use the HTML code from Google's site, the link that leads to the image is as follow:

Except when you paste in the HTML code, it doesn't bring up the goddamn image. I just don't understand why. It seems that Blogger doesn't accept the URL. So, I had to substitute the following URL instead:

Hopefully it'll stay. If anyone else is having this kind of trouble, the solution is in changing the image URL. Host it somewhere else or use the link I used.

I had a major headache finding the problem since I am not very well versed in HTML (yeah, it's simple but I'm coding illiterate).

Update: For the fear of Google changing their site link, I have personally hosted the picture. Should be a long stay now...