This is my final post before I start my first exam in about 16 hours times. Wish me luck.
I want to have a look at a question and that is: Just how much heart a person should put into a friendship or relationship?
So let's begin. It would be fair to say that the amount of heart a person place in any friendship or relationship would depend on how well that person understand and trust the person they're placing their heart with. This is a linear relationship - so the greater the trust and understanding, the greater amount of heart and vice versa. In theory, this sounds very well and good. However, we must understand that a friendship or a relationship really begins because both people trust and understand each other and therefore in reality, the amount of heart placed in each case are pretty high - unless both sides recognise the fact that they're just using each other but let's dismiss this third scenario.
At this point, we now must ask one a critical question: Should we place such a high level of heart in the friendship or relationship?
What I mean is that the only thing preventing a person from being heartbroken is really how well the opposite side can take care of your heart. To illustrate what I mean, I will take myself as an example. I pride myself on my high moral values and beliefs. As a result, if I believe a person is worthy of my trust and friendship or relationship, I will put pretty much 100% of my heart into it without a doubt. However, not everyone is like me and while I do trust the opposite side, there is absolutely no guarantee they will not break my heart/let me down. So pretty much this comes down to my critical question: Should we place such a high level of heart?
At this point, it'll be fair to say NO because there is nothing to prevent you from being heartbroken/let down etc except the opposite side.
So we have a dilemma, or reached a crossroad if you like. On one hand, we want to give alot of heart but on another, for the lack of guarantee of that person's values and beliefs, we shouldn't.
So what the heck should we do?
Well, different people will have different answers for this because the amount/level of heart break they have experienced vary - some have been hurt deeply while others have not been hurt at all and will have the 100% heart formula.
1) Some will have the following formulas I believe:
90-95% Defense - 10-5% Heart.
2) Some will have an even more powerful formula which is as follows:
"Fuck you, you ain't getting any of my heart. I am gonna play you so hard and so high so when you fall, you'll experience the same amount of fucking pain I felt you fucking asshole!@#"
3) Some have a combination of both:
"I'll give you some heart just to entice you and see how well you can capture it and treat it. I have been hurt to an extent where I will still give out but it'll be primarily to play you and on the first sign of danger, I'll take it back and hurt you!"
So, it is quite crazy isn't it? Everything just depends on the person you're giving your heart to.... If you have managed to read what I have written and understood, I congratulate you! And if you have done so, you'll want to know my answer to this too.
Me? I feel it is good to take things slowly. Don't give out all your heart but instead test the person you will be giving it to. But don't take it back just because you think it's getting dangerous as you may interpret it wrongly, ask or probe why instead. More importantly, don't be number 1, 2 or 3 because you could have interpret it wrong and seriously damage a true friendship/relationship not to mention the person... But importantly, don't be afraid to give your heart because just sometimes, in a rare twist of fate, you'll just meet a person like me who will treasure, protect and stand by it until the end of time. They say action speaks louder than words, so as time pass by, their actions will show you their true self.
Don't be afraid to communicate because misunderstandings will arise otherwise. Don't be afraid to laugh because life is too short to be so serious. And most importantly don't be afraid to give it another chance because... well... fate has its twists.
So we arrive at a conclusion - another attempt at rationalising everything. However, I felt this piece of work is perhaps better than my previous one... Well, sleeping time.