Thursday, November 15, 2007

Exam - Again

Time of the year: 3rd year Exams.

Fun times at university, one exam on Friday and one exam next week Thursday.

Wish me luck...

P.S. Planning to do honors, my average is currently 75%, plenty enough I think. Any tips or advice as to what I should do my thesis in if I do undertake honor? I'm doing Human Resource Management and Management.

Ok, gtg, whole day of cramming tommorrow!

Wish me luck with all your hearts and magical charms, will visit all you guys in a few days time!!

Shan

Monday, November 12, 2007

Be The Blog Award


Thanks to Amel for recently awarding me the "Be the Blog" award.


Normally, I'd hate to take an award that is meaningless because it's just a piece of code with colors. But the award Amel has given me is something special because it awards people who have been there with their blog and made it a success over it and just had fun.

This is especially true for me. This blog was originally a creative outlet for me that really catered for my own views and what I thought day in and day out. Over time, I found it impossible to shut myself in the blogsphere and hence began networking with various people and today, I have made many friends.

I have kept my network because because I find it pointless to have a huge blogroll and not being able to have a personal connection with these people and I am proud to say that I do with my current network and I have had alot of fun writing my thoughts, reading everyone's replies and visiting all of your wonderful blogs.

So I would like to take this moment and thank everyone for being with me through the past months, really, it has been fun and I have learnt more about people and the world through this period than I would have normally done. It's been a most wonderful experience.

And thank you Amel for making me post this corny statement of thanks to everyone haha!

In return, I would like to award this to a few special people myself:

1) Deadpool - Buddy, your blog is a unique piece of work. Keep the originality up!

2) Zhu - Needless to say, wonderful.

3) Jeff - If you want to learn a thing or two about life, come have a look here :)


The creator of this award is Mark and he has three different colors. Go pick your favorite colors :)


Sunday, November 11, 2007

38 Things About Me

Max has tagged me for 38 things about me. So here it is. Be warned, I am boring.

1. Name one person who made you laugh last night? Hmmm, unfortunately, it was the computer, ok, it's not a person but then again that's that...
2. What were you doing at 0800? Damn, just went to bed after a entire day of youtubing...
3. What were you doing 30 minutes ago? Watching a video on Lee Hyori and Jessica Alba. What hot women, damn!
4. What happened to you in 2006? Why not 2007?
5. What was the last thing you said out loud? The question makes no sense...
6. How many beverages did you have today? Water, Fanta, Pepsi
7. What color is your hairbrush? What's a hairbrush? Is pink a suitable answer?
8. What was the last thing you paid for? I don't pay for things, people pay me.
9. Where were you last night? At home.
10. What color is your front door? Brown.
11. Where do you keep your change? My wallet.
12. What's the weather like today? Damned hot! 36 degrees!
13. What's the best ice-cream flavor? Paddle Pop Rainbow!!
14. What excites you? Watching Lee Hyori dancing and smiling :P
15. Do you want to cut your hair? Yeah.
16. Are you over the age of 25? No :)
17. Do you talk a lot? I voice my opinions when I feel it is necessary to ensure that the voice of good is being heard :)
18. Do you watch the O.C.? Yeah, bunch of bimbos in my view lol...
19. Do you know anyone named Steven? lol, yeah.
20. Do you make up your own words? All the timeszzzzzeszzz.
21. Are you a jealous person? Yep, very very jealous and possessive and insecure.
22. Name a friend whose name starts with the letter 'A' Aaron.
23. Name a friend whose name starts with the letter 'K' None.
24. Who's the first person on your received call list? I can't remember.
25. What does the last text message you received say? Errr, some marketing msg.
26. Do you chew on your straw? Straw? What the heck...
27. Do you have curly hair? Nope.
28. Where's the next place you’re going to? The bathroom and then my study room.
29. Who's the rudest person in your life? Some bitch working at work and some bitch at a sunglass shop.
30. What was the last thing you ate? Rice.
31. Will you get married in the future? Marriage is a thing of the past. Today, it's all about polygamy and harems.
32. What's the best movie you've seen in the past 2 weeks? Musa and Battle of Wits. They're Korean and Chinese films.
33. Is there anyone you like right now? Lee Hyori. She goddamn hot!
34. When was the last time you did the dishes? Can't remember. I love my mum. Hi MUM!
35. Are you currently depressed? I am always depressed. Depression is something that not everyone can have. I am proud.
36. Did you cry today? No but I shoudl...
37. Why did you answer and post this? Very Very good question. THis questions makes me feel like an idiot... lol And where is the 38th question?
38. Tag 5 people who would do this survey. If you wanna have some fun, then it's everyone on my favorite blog reads. Do it, it's not as boring as you think.

This includes you MAX and Amel! Yeah, I know you guys did 38 before but being tagged again means you should do another 38 lol... I am mean, what can you do.

Thursday, November 8, 2007

The Game... Or An Illusion?

I sit here in front of my quiet, newly customised computer pondering... The night is quiet, there is a light breeze slipping into my room and my folks are asleep. A great evening to think.

I just had to write this.

I have just finished reading a most insightful, interesting and eye-opening book in my life. This is not something I admit readily for I have read hundreds of books, possibly into the thousands and this book, despite its non-conventional nature comes out very high on my list of good reads. Of course, it's not as well woven like that of Jeffery Archer nor have the characteristic flow of a Jack Higgins but just the nature and the message of the book makes you feel enlightened.

The book is called "The Game" by Neil Strauss. Most people outside of US probably have not heard of it but the title itself pretty much gives away its content and I believe most people would understand what "The Game" means.

Putting it simply, it's a catch phrase for men (or women) who engages in activities to pursue the opposite (or even the same) sex. In other words, these guys plays the game by using a range of tactics and strategies to ensnare their "prey", screw them and then discard them. Men who plays the game are called "Players" and women are often called "Playettes", however also acknowledged as 'hos (whores), sluts, tramps etc etc.

SO this book details the transformation of a man, an insecure man called Neil Strauss who "penetrates" or rather joins the society of pick-up artists (PUA), learn from the, creates an alternative self called "Style" and using Style to become a Player.

Throughout his journey, he meets various mPUA's (Master Pick-up Artists) such as David DeAngelo, Ross Jefferies and of course, the infamous or rather famous Mystery himself. He learns from each of these artists who have their own method such as "Speed Seduction" or the "Mystery Method". He also goes on various seminars and workshops throughout the world including Perth and teaches various Average Frustrated Chumps (AFC's) how to pick up women and play the game... Finally he creates his own method combined from all these artists and he now calls himself the world's best pickup artist.

The book create 11 chapters with the process of picking up and includes select a target to demonstrate value to blasting last minute resistance. According to Strauss, from the moment he decides to pick up his target and to sex, the duration is anywhere between the same day to the time he calls her. Of course, like any good story, he always succeeds and never fails until the last girl who he marries hahaha! Somewhat unrealistic but definitely a good read!

If you read it, you'll know what I mean by very interesting. It is a best seller on Amazon and so it should be.

Firstly, I want to outline the good points of the book. One, it's a good read and provides a very good background of how to improve self image and becoming a player hahaha! (Spend money, spend time and it would seem that every guy can become a Player lol). Two, the messages are good and as much degrading it is to women, the ultimate message is very good.

Now moving onto the bad points. One, it never details any failures and this somewhat accentuates the true nature of the book, that is, it's designed to excite and convey a message. In reality, despite this guy's successes, I am pretty sure he would have failed and in those failures, killed his own self-morale even more and made him want to try harder to do something that bears little practicality on life. Two, it is highly encouraging to guys to .. well.. become a player. Due to the fact that the book does not detail any failures, it kind of idolise this guy and makes everyone feel that by trying, everyone can become a player and I seriously doubt this. This has a negative side as guy will try and burn and this burning will lead them to more failures and ultimately, possible self-destruction. Of course, persistence is good and trying gives a guy a better chance than none but the way this guy details is really a hilarious way to pick-up women.

Then again, I am failing to neglect the fact that all his pick-ups are restricted to club girls or strip club girls and rarely any outside of these places. According to him, picking up intelligent girls are easier than party-happy girls with attention deficit disorder, yet he seems to pick up girls in clubs with ADD lol!

Finally, this is degrading to women. He sends across a message that ALL women are the same and that they want excitement from their otherwise mundane lives. Pretty much in the earlier parts of the book, he is saying that he can pick up any women no matter what their background as he can provide them with fun and well... excitement lol! This is illustrated by the fact that he managed to pick-up the girlfriend of his best friend in Belgrade, amusing no?

Now, this kind of makes a guy including me very much disillusioned in the female species because by rationality, I feel that in many ways, what he is saying is true and as much as I want to believe otherwise, he has an advantage over other guys.

Of course, he makes up for this near the end by saying that as degrading and degenerating the game is having on his life, the boost in self-confidence is extremely important and I feel this is possibly the most important message he has to convey to all guys.

Girls will always be girls and no matter how hard we try, their thinking process will always be the same and they will always want something a guy like him can provide. So the only thing guys who does not want to become players to do is be self-confident, do his best to be himself and hope to god that a girl can see this and be attracted for what he is, not a game he has created to ultimately screw her. Because confidence allows you to attract others and from reading this book, I realised that we all need to be more confident. I have known that everyone is insecure in their own ways but that to attract someone who can love you for who you are and be with you for the rest of yourself, you need to be confident and be who you are. If they want excitement or something you can't offer, then let them go to guys who can provide this and be happy, or just get screwed and tossed away. Of course, I am not saying to surrender because by being confident and being yourself means doing things that are more exciting and this can be done by being yourself I feel. Confidence is really the game, not just routine, lines, set-openers, closers and sex. While sex is always good, it's not the only thing.

At this stage, I feel like I am trying to convince myself that we guys who does not want to become players or we guys who can't be players (I think I can if I tried hard enough or spent enough money but that's not who I am and not someone who I want to be...). So I'll leave you with the final comments in the book by the "man" himself to think about.

"... And though I learned everything there is about attraction, seduction and courtship in the past two years, I learned nothing about maintaining a healthy relationship. Being together has required alot more time and work than learning to pickup women ever did, but it has brought me far greater satisfaction and joy. Perhaps that's because it is not a game"

Hahaha, so in conclusion, guess what, reading that must be some kind of epiphany for people I reckon. So let's summarise my various random thought and just condense them. I feel the book is good and that learning how to pick-up women is not a bad thing. It improves your chances of dating and being together with someone. However, I feel that it is wise not to trust everything that is being conveyed by the book because well, it is to generate controversy and excitement after-all. So by all means try to become a player, but use the skills for good, that is to obtaining and maintaining a relationship, not to screw women and use them. I am sure the author agrees with me on this and he himself, is a very manipulative person I think haha!

In my closing words, sometimes, being the best, the wise, or in this case, the master of pick-up does not mean they are "the one" because in the end, we are all human and being human means
that we all can be wrong. As the quote goes, "to err is human but to forgive is divine". As cool as it sounds to become a player, these guys often think they are the shit and this is an illusion in itself because it closes them to further learning and only through learning can be become better. So by all means learn but innovate rather than imitate.

Smile, Be Confident, Be yourself and Improve where possible. That is the game. I'd rather be playing this game than something that has little resemblance in life. Spending my time buying weird clothes, being extremely manipulative, rote learning pick-up lines and drinking into oblivion does not sound as well as having fun with friends, buying nice looking clothes and enjoying the experiences of life.

Then again, this is me and I know what I am capable of, so I guess I am luckier than many.

As I continue writing, I realise how I am just a goddamn think machine. I am continuosly outhinking myself and trying to find arguments to outwit myself and as I type this, I look at it with a huge smirk on my face hahaha!

Opps, now I realised something else, nothing remaining static is good for you, and hence it is impossible for me to draw an ultimate conclusion on my view of this book, the game, becoming a player or just becoming a better self.

My conclusion is that Smile, Be Confident, Be yourself and Improve where possible is the game I want to play. So, I hope anyone who reads this blog will seek out this book, read it and come to your own conclusion.

And oh, being a player does not make a guy any cooler than the rest Just means that the girls they're picking up are probably sluttier and easier lol :P

Until next time, enjoy life!

Friday, November 2, 2007

Insecurity

Today, I want to have a look at the topic of insecurity, and apply it in particular to myself... A self reflection exercise if you may...

I have realised that these days, I am growing more and more focused on my looks and how I dress and no matter how well I dress, it takes alot of convincing in the mirror to say "yep, you look good". Of course, past experiences has not helped me with resolving this issue either.

So I figured that this arose out of insecurity about myself and I thought, when will I grow out of this? I liked my old self, where I actually thought about life rather than look at mirrors and how others dress. I feel... inferior and crude...

Insecurity is defined by Wikipedia as "a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving oneself to be unloved, inadequate or worthless"

Sounds very much like me haha, except I have somewhat perfected an outer exterior or "Cool, Calmness and Collected" - Something that I am proud of but something I want to be more true than just a shield...

So in an attempt to somehow help myself, I looked in various places and bought myself a book called The Freud Reader - yeah, the one and only Sigmund Freud, father of psychoanalysis. It's a thick book that details his various essays and I have yet to make a decent progress on it.

But I have stumbled something shorter and more concise in Wikipedia (don't you just love Wikipedia? If one can absorb all it's information, man, imagine what the person will be like!). The thing I stumbled was called Erikson's stages of psychosocial development - Very informative, go have a look!

So, as I read, I figured I have mastered my earlier childhood well.

The first stage question (Birth to 18 months): Where the fuck am I? :P

I am in China, Beijing, proud 3000 years old civilization that contributed to the world the four amazing inventions of papermaking, gunpowder, compass and printing.

The second stage: (1.5 to 3 years): Do I need help from others or not?

I am not sure what I figured when I was 3 years old but today, I realise I need help from others. We all need help from others, united we stand, divided we fall.

The third stage: 3-6 years: How moral am I?

I feel I have strong morals. I have set ideals on what I should and should not do and I have enough self-will to ensure that I carry these out.

The fourth stage: 7-12: Am I good at what I do?

Am I? What am I good at? I am good at nothing. I have no particular skills that I can fall back on, no natural gifts except my mind. I think and I do. That is all I have.

The fifth stage: 12-18: "Who am I, and what is my goal in life?"

Here is a stage that I have yet to complete successfully. I don't know who I am nor what is my goal in life. As a kid, I always wanted to be a businessman, grow rich, be tactit, diplomatic and resourceful in earning alot of money. I want to have mistresses and succeed in life by have money and power. Yet, I am at a stage of my life where I am questioning this. Just who am I and what do I really want out of life? Am I a such dangerous manipulative person who can be very rich or am I just a simple person who is somewhat intelligent, enough to be modest and well off in this life. I need to work on this.

Ok, the rest stages is too complex and I need to truly understand it further so I have bought the book: The Life Cycle Completed: A Review

Go read it, it sounds interesting.

In wrapping up, what has been my point?

y point is that I have yet to discover the source of my insecurity and I need to look further into the area of psychology and understand myself better to progress in life.

My point was to inform you all of the topic of insecurity. Many of you may sometimes, just sometimes, sit there and wonder who you are, what you are doing and just exactly what is wrong with your life. Well, it's time to go on a journey to discover yourself and help yourself avoid the impact of a mid-life crisis.

Until next time, adios amigos!

P.S. Here are the photos :D


Guess Wally! If you can't, count three from the left :)



The room in a minute silence for the decease Chinese girl, Jiao Dan

The party about to get underway!!


Yeah, hot "Indian" dancing girls". Nooo, they're not Indian, they're Chinese. The photos don't do them justice, they're prettier :D


My co-hosts: Cute? Pretty? You Decide...


I am the one in the yellow shirt practising our speech.


Dinner, I think blue suits me...